Many of us will have an ex-lover we constantly think about and find ourselves wondering, “Why does he keep popping up?”, “How is this guy still in my thoughts?”, “What will happen if I text him?”.
Like many people out there, I still think of my ex sometimes. Even though it’s been a while since the breakup, I still remember their smile, their touch, and the way they laughed.
It’s not unhealthy to obsess over an ex-lover, but instead, it’s an indication that your emotions are open and raw.
But why exactly do some of us continue looking back on an old relationship? What is the spiritual meaning behind it?
In this article, I’ve put together a list of 17 reasons why people keep thinking about their exes and the spiritual meaning behind each of those reasons.
Let’s dive in.
1) We miss the comfort
The most common reason for thinking about an ex is that we miss our comfortable life with them, but it is also the hardest to conquer.
If you keep thinking about your ex it’s because there is some kind of resistance to change and you wish things could go back to the way they were. But sometimes, it just isn’t possible.
2) We don’t want to admit that we made a mistake
Most of us keep thinking about an ex because we’re still in denial that we’ve made a mistake.
Many people think about their exes because deep down inside, they know that the relationship was not based on love and in fact it was based on shallow emotions.
It’s important to accept the fact that you were wrong and move forward with life.
3) We want to release negative emotions
Another reason why people think about their exes is that they’re trying to release all the negative emotions trapped inside them.
If you keep thinking about an ex, it’s because you’re holding onto some kind of negative emotions and you need to let them out.
Many people have emotional baggage that needs to be dealt with, so it’s very normal if you keep thinking about your ex.
4) What would a gifted advisor say?
The points in this article will give you a good idea of why you keep thinking about your ex.
But as every situation is unique, have you considered getting advice tailored to you?
Based on first-hand experience, I know that a gifted advisor can answer all sorts of questions and give you the guidance you’re searching for.
Like, why can’t I stop thinking about my ex? How do I know if my break-up is final?
When I spoke to someone from Psychic Source after going through a rough patch in my relationship, they really helped me out. After months of not feeling like myself, I was finally able to see my situation with better clarity and direction.
I was extremely impressed by how kind, empathetic, and understanding of my unique situation they were.
In a reading, a gifted advisor can tell you why you keep thinking about your ex, and most importantly, empower you to make the right decisions when it comes to love.
5) We didn’t feel appreciated
Another common reason why some people think about their exes is that they didn’t feel appreciated.
It is important to be able to show our appreciation to the person we love, so if you don’t show appreciation it could lead to a breakup.
If you find yourself obsessing over your ex-lover, then it means you feel as if they did not appreciate what you offered them, or perhaps they owe you something.
6) We’re afraid we’ll never find love again
It is normal if you keep thinking about your ex after a breakup because you might feel as if you’ll never find love again.
Many people think about their exes because they have a fear of commitment. They’ve been hurt many times and they’re afraid that it will happen again.
7) We miss their touch
If you’ve broken up with someone, it’s normal for you to be attracted to them even if they are your ex.
Many people think about their exes because they miss their touch, so they keep holding onto the hope that they’ll be with them again.
I mentioned earlier how speaking to a gifted advisor can reveal the truth about why you keep thinking about your ex.
Rather than just analyzing the signs in the hopes of getting answers, a gifted advisor can give you real clarity on your situation.
And the best part of speaking to the folks at Psychic Source?
Not only can they give you guidance on why you can’t stop thinking about your ex, but they can empower you to make the right decisions when it comes to every aspect of your love life.
8) We feel regret
Having regrets is a big sign that you need to have some form of closure.
If you keep thinking about your ex, it means you can relate to the story of “what if.”
It’s important that you start to accept what happened, instead of keeping it inside and holding onto the pain.
9) We feel scared of commitment
It is normal if you find yourself thinking about your ex because you’re afraid of commitment.
It’s a big deal to be in a relationship, so it’s not surprising when some people find themselves thinking about their exes because they are afraid of commitment.
10) We want to relive the good moments
A breakup can be hard on anyone, especially if you were in a long-term relationship.
Many people think about their exes because they want to relive the good moments that they had with them.
They might even try to go back in time and have everything back like it was before the breakup. But it’s useless to live in the past.
11) We feel unloved
It’s normal to feel unloved after a breakup because we might have had some kind of control over the situation.
If you keep thinking about your ex, it means that you’re still in love with them and want to go back in time and make things right.
12) We’re attached to the outcome
A relationship is based on mutual respect and the love you give and receive should be equal.
If you keep thinking about your ex, it means that you’re attached to the outcome and it could mean that you’re more invested than they are.
In this case, it’s important to focus on yourself and heal your own heart first, instead of thinking about the person who hurt you.
13) We’re afraid of change
Getting over an ex is tough, but if you keep thinking about them, then it means that you’re not ready to change.
Many people think about their exes because they’re afraid of picking up a new relationship (especially if it’s with someone new).
Sometimes it’s better to just let go of someone and move on with life.
14) We still have feelings for them
It is normal if you think about your ex because maybe you still have some kind of feelings for them.
It’s normal to have some kind of attachment to a person that we’ve been with for a long time.
They might mean a lot to us and they’re probably someone who is more than just an ex.
15) We’re lonely
Most of us who keep thinking about our exes are lonely. We can’t go on with life because we feel incomplete.
We want to run back to the past and fix it, but that’s not the solution.
The best thing we can do is focus on ourselves and find what makes us happy. If you don’t love yourself, then you’ll always find someone else to blame for your own unhappiness.
16) We’re not done with them yet
If you keep thinking about your ex, it means that you have unfinished business with them.
If you think about them, it might mean that there’s still something to be done on your part.
It could also mean that there’s still a lot of work to be done on both of your parts.
Don’t worry if you keep thinking about your ex, It is normal because you’re still not over them, but don’t let it consume your life.
17) We love our past
If we really love our exes, then we often think about them.
Sometimes we like to keep that part of our past alive and make a few memories. It’s normal if you’re curious about your ex, especially if you still have feelings for them.
Just remember that thinking about your ex is not going to bring them back.
The best thing to do is focus on fixing yourself and loving yourself, then you’ll be able to move on and love again.
How do I know if my break-up is final?
Was the breakup really final? It can be hard to tell even a few days, weeks, or months after the fact.
Here’s a list of things that you might find helpful in figuring out whether this separation was just temporary.
1) There are many types of breaks up and people react differently either for good reasons or bad reasons.
Some people get back together within days after breaking up because they realize that they made a mistake and want to reconcile the relationship.
2) If you are wondering if it’s final or not when your ex has moved on, the answer is that it isn’t until they find a new partner and have started to show them off.
3) Making a break up final means that you are completely over there and they are completely over you.
If they aren’t completely over you and continue to think about you and want to see you, it will never be final.
4) One of the biggest signs that it isn’t final is if there is still a lot of drama between you and the ex, or if the ex starts to contact you.
5) If you have broken up with someone and they are still in your life, they probably aren’t over you.
Can love come back after a breakup?
It’s tough to say.
While it’s very possible to keep up with someone you used to date, the fact is that people change and so will their feelings for you.
The leading causes of breakups are lack of trust, betrayal, and lack of communication.
So even if your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend comes back after a string of unsuccessful dates with their new partner, they may not be ready to pick up where they left off.
Why do I want to text my ex so badly?
Texting an ex within six weeks after the break-up is considered reasonably healthy.
This is known as the six-week period of grieving. This is when people typically adjust to their new lives as single or in a new relationship.
It’s during that time when many people will go back and speak to their ex without any problems whatsoever.
Perhaps it’s best that you allow yourself that extra time. That way your feelings won’t be so tumultuous.
You’ll feel less apprehensive about speaking with your ex and get more comfortable chatting with them once the six weeks are up.
It’s best to text your ex through the six-week period of grieving.
However, after that time period is up, it’s important to put your feelings aside and move on. If you continue to text your ex after a breakup, then you’re not moving forward.
How do you let go and stop thinking about your ex for good
If you’re trying to forget about a past relationship and have found yourself obsessing on this person, you might be thinking about your ex too much.
There are certain ways to stop focusing on your exes, which include:
- Don’t talk about them with others. This helps minimize the impact they’ve had on your life while learning new things and strengthening relationships with friends and family members.
- Don’t hang out with the same people you used to hang out with when you were in a relationship. It’s important not to force them into your life, so try to meet new people and spend time with them instead.
- Don’t stalk their social media accounts or call/text them first. Instead, give yourself some time to heal and move on without making things harder than they have to be.
- Don’t keep mementos of your exes in your house.
- Don’t let your ex dictate how you feel about yourself. Try to talk to a friend or family member for support so that you can feel better about yourself and realize the worst thing about your ex in them.
Here’s the good news: those thoughts will eventually go away.
Here’s the even better news: once they do, your life is going to be so much better.
Even though you can’t stop thinking about your ex, this doesn’t mean you’re stuck in the past.
The past is over and done with, and it certainly isn’t holding you back from moving on. If anything, it’s holding you back from being fully present in the now.
Remember that any relationship you have is temporary, and it’s okay to end it. It’s okay to move on and have real, healthy relationships in the future.
I mentioned Psychic Source earlier. They’ve always helped me in the past when I’ve felt stuck in a rut.
That’s why I always recommend them to anyone facing issues with thinking too much about their exes. Their advisors can help you get to the root of your problems and guide you in making empowered decisions about your future.
When I recently signed up for a love reading, I was blown away by how accurate and genuinely helpful it was.