If you have recently had a life-changing spiritual awakening, it can be a challenging time to find love.
You may have new insights into what’s important in life, which can make meeting new people and dating more challenging than usual.
Here are 10 tips for finding love after a spiritual awakening:
1) Focus on you first
Anytime you enter a new relationship, you will naturally have to shift from being very focused on yourself to being more mindful of others.
But if you’re still reeling from a healing crisis or are just beginning to date again, it’s easy to get so wrapped up in others that you neglect yourself.
It’s important to focus on yourself first and make sure you are in a good place emotionally and spiritually before you start dating again.
Focus on healing relationships with friends and family that may have suffered as a result of your spiritual awakening.
Make sure you’re in a good place emotionally, physically, and spiritually. This will make it easier to focus on others and find love again.
You see, when you go through a spiritual awakening, a lot in your life can change, and that can be really rough.
A lot of people who have gone through a spiritual awakening may not feel like they’re ready to date again.
But if you’ve experienced a spiritual awakening, it means you are more likely to be open to new experiences and new ways of thinking.
This openness can make you more open to dating again, even though it might be difficult at first. But if you focus on yourself as much as possible, this can help make it easier.
See how you feel throughout the entire process and while you go about dating, remember to put yourself in the focus.
Don’t go on dates hoping that they will like you. Instead, go into dates curious and with the mindset of “let’s see if I like this person and if they would be a good match for me.”
Shifting your perspective on yourself will make you less nervous and will take a lot of pressure off of you.
It’s all about you – can you picture a life with that person?
And if they don’t reciprocate your feelings, you know they aren’t the one for you, it’s that simple!
2) Be open to finding love again
It can be hard to let go of old ideas about who you are and what you want in a partner.
Be open to finding love again, even if you’ve always defined yourself as single or impossible to find love.
Think of yourself as “open to finding love.” That way, you’ll open yourself up to new relationships that might not fit the old ideas about who you should be with.
You see, after a spiritual awakening, people are sometimes very caught up in the idea that they don’t need a partner, they are pure love anyways.
While to some degree that is true, having a partner is still a beautiful addition to life.
You see, the idea of being single can be really scary to people who have gone through a spiritual awakening because they might not know how to approach someone else.
It’s hard to imagine dating someone new when you’ve been single for a while and don’t know what you want in a partner.
But if you’re open to finding love again, it doesn’t matter that you’ve been single for years.
It’s time to stop thinking about yourself as a single person and start thinking about yourself as an open-minded person looking for love again.
Plus, after your spiritual awakening, you will likely not repeat the exact same patterns and attract traumatizing partners, instead, you can attract a loving partner who helps you heal even more!
Usually, our first partners very much reflect certain traumas that we’ve experienced.
It’s important to remember that you’re not stuck in the same relationship forever, you can heal from your past and attract a loving partner who is a great fit for you.
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3) Network and join events that help you grow
As you start dating again, it can be helpful to reach out to others and network.
Join a Meetup group or find an online networking site where others who have had spiritual awakenings can connect.
If you’ve recently finished a spiritual workshop or program and want to meet like-minded people, consider attending an event from that program.
These types of events are often full of people who are also looking for love and trying to put their new skills into practice.
If you want to meet like-minded individuals but don’t want to attend a singles event, consider volunteering at a cause that inspires you.
You see, if you want to meet someone who you can grow with, there isn’t a better place than events that help people grow.
The attendees will be people who are committed to growth and self-development, so it’s likely that you will find the ideal partner there!
I recommend steering away from dating apps. While they can be fun, and there is nothing wrong with using them, they might not align with your values or desires.
It’s better to meet people in person and get to know them before you decide if you want to date.
Plus, a lot of people on dating apps are not really out looking for a serious relationship and chances are, after a spiritual awakening, you want a deeper connection, nothing casual.
However, it’s up to you, see how you feel!
4) Don’t be discouraged if it takes time
If you have recently had a life-changing spiritual awakening, it can take time to find love again.
If you need to take time off from dating while you heal and focus on yourself, that’s OK.
It’s better to be patient and make sure you are in a good place emotionally, physically, and spiritually before you start dating again.
And if your transformation process continues and you find yourself in another healing crisis, that’s OK too.
You see, healing takes time, and if you want to be in a healthy, happy relationship, it’s best to give yourself time to heal.
Now: try not to be frustrated or discouraged if you can’t find a partner right away.
Let your healing process unfold naturally and be patient with yourself.
The more grace you show yourself during this time, the more you are showing the universe how much you respect yourself and will therefore attract a respectful partner!
5) Remember why finding love is important to you
When you were in a relationship and then had a spiritual awakening, it can be easy to think that all of the things you used to do, such as dating, don’t matter anymore.
Don’t forget why dating is important to you.
When you are in a relationship, dating helps you create a life with someone you love.
Dating can help you have a family with children or a family with your partner.
After a spiritual awakening, a lot of things can feel so much more important than dating.
However, try to remember that love is the most important thing and that you will find love again, but it takes time.
6) Take time to self-care
It can be very challenging to find love again after a spiritual awakening when you are going through a healing crisis.
It’s important to take care of yourself during this time.
Stay away from substances like alcohol or drugs that might make your symptoms worse.
Find ways to rest, such as sleeping in, meditating, or doing yoga.
Keeping your energy up while you are in a healing phase can be challenging.
It’s important to eat healthy, nutritious meals and to get enough sleep. It’s also important to take breaks from being around people.
Find ways to recharge, such as taking a walk, reading, or spending some time alone.
No matter what you do, make sure that you don’t jump into dating too soon after a spiritual awakening.
You need some time to heal.
Dating also requires a lot of mental energy, so make sure you are ready for that.
7) Be clear about what you want
When you are dating again after a spiritual awakening, it can be easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new relationship.
But don’t forget to be clear about what you want.
From the beginning, let your new partner know what you need from them and what you expect from the relationship.
Feel free to say, “I’m not ready for a committed relationship right now.” Or, “I’m not open to sex before marriage.”
If you have been celibate, it’s a good idea to be open about that, too.
Let your partner know that you are celibate and that you want to take things slow, for example.
This will help you avoid misunderstandings and keep the focus on being safe and responsible.
You see, now that you’ve gone through a spiritual awakening, it’s time to level up your experience.
By being open about what you want and need out of a relationship, you are immediately disqualifying a lot of partners, which can feel scary at first.
However, it’s a good thing!
Think about it: you are being more strict about what you are looking for in a partner.
You are also taking the lead in defining your standards and boundaries, which is something that you should do with any new partner, whether they are a friend or someone you are dating.
Being clear about what you want will help you be more selective and ultimately find a better match who is right for you.
It might take a little bit of time but you will get there!
8) Set boundaries and stick to them
It’s important to set boundaries with your new partner.
Let them know what you want to do, what you don’t want to do, and what your limits are.
For example, you might let them know that you don’t appreciate certain behaviors.
That way, if they do want to entertain these behaviors, they know that things with you would be over.
Establishing boundaries and sticking to them can help you avoid getting sucked into a chaotic and unhealthy relationship.
Boundaries help you protect yourself from getting hurt and from doing things you know are not healthy for you.
Establishing healthy boundaries can also help you create positive relationships with others because it will show them that you respect yourself.
You see, I can’t really tell you what these boundaries will be, it depends completely on yourself and your limits.
However, I invite you to really take some time to think about that before jumping into the dating pool, as your boundaries might have changed with your spiritual awakening, and what you once would have accepted is no longer acceptable to you in a relationship.
This can be a really eye-opening experience.
9) Look for partners who are equally committed to spiritual growth
If you are dating someone new and things are going well, you may decide to take the relationship to the next level.
Before you move forward with a new partner, make sure that you are both on the same page when it comes to spiritual growth.
If you are in a relationship with someone who is not on the same page as you are, you may feel frustrated or decide that you need to end the relationship further down the line.
If one of you has changed their mind about the importance of spiritual practices and the other person has not, it’s likely that those two people are not on the same page.
Now: just because you see the importance of spiritual practices differently, doesn’t mean that you have to end the relationship.
You just need to talk with your partner about where they are at and decide how to move forward.
Two partners don’t need to approach spirituality exactly the same way, they don’t even have to follow the same practices or practice equally as much.
However, certain things should be in-sync, and both partners should at least be committed to personal growth in one way or another.
You see, if your partner is not interested in self-growth, you will soon outgrow them and feel trapped.
10) Stay in the present moment while dating
It can be easy to be discouraged while dating after a spiritual awakening.
Dating can be challenging at the best of times, and when you are going through a healing phase, dating can be even more challenging.
My tip? Be present in the moment while dating.
Stay focused on the person you are with and what is happening in the moment, rather than thinking about how long it will take to find love again or how many relationships have failed in the past.
You see, when you are on your date, try not to think about whether you can see yourself with them 10 years down the line because chances are, on a first date, you can’t.
Instead, try to stay present and see if you are enjoying your time with them.
Do your values align? Are they funny? Do you feel appreciated and respected?
When all these things are true, then you can enjoy your date while being present, and simply see where things go.
This will also allow you to soak up the entire experience and enjoy every moment of it!
You will find love eventually
These 10 tips for finding love after a spiritual awakening can help you focus on the most important parts of dating and relationship building.
Once you are able to focus on what’s important, you’ll be able to find the love of your life.
Spiritual awakenings can be tough, but they catapult you onto a different level of life – new experiences, new love, and maybe soon a new relationship.
Don’t give up, the right person for you is out there and they can’t wait to meet you, too!